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Friday, 12 January 2018

Of Tolerance- Learning to understand and exercise safe tolerance practices.

Experiencing trauma can affect our tolerance for internal and external life stress. There may be triggering memories in the form of smells, sights, sounds, touch, spacial awareness, and many personal things. When we are within our state of tolerance, our heart rate is steady, our breathing calm and we may feel a sense of personal safety. As indicated by the NICABM chart. we can see that trauma minimizes the size of the tolerance window. We may feel an intense  experience of being out of our comfort zone or being un-ground or off center. Sometimes we may try so desperately to scramble back to our window of tolerance that we undertake behaviors that are not beneficial to our health. It may be at these times that we might need to ask for help from a professional counsellor to create a tool kit to help us through these times, or to refresh or upgrade the existing tool kit that we already have. Your tool kit may consist of these eight practices and which ever other techniques that work for you.

  • relaxation techniques, 
  • grounding exercises, strategies for managing negative self talk, 
  • exercises disperse dissociation and bring us back into the body, 
  • gratitude techniques, 
  • strengths based practices and 
  • practices which instill hope
  • bringing creativity into every day life
  • bring nature into every day life
As suggested in the diagram above, people who have experiences trauma may slip across the threshold of tolerance into dis-regulation much more easily than non-traumatized people because they have fare less room to move around within the window of tolerance to escape, or hold onto pressure,
whether that be from exterior (loud noises, heavy traffic, other people's stuff) or internal forces, (inner critic, illness). For this reason, it is important to listen to our bodies, treat ourselves with kindness and take a break when we need to in order to replenish those tool kits and keep ourselves well. People may label us as over sensitive. So be it. We have had to be for our own survival. But our sensitivity may also make us empathetic, caring and understanding. We may be highly tuned to the world around us which, when looked through the perspective of mindfulness, is a great gift.
Lap it up and live your bliss.

How to Free Yourself from Your Personal Stories An effective mindfulness practice for working with self-stories so you don’t get so caught up in yourself that you miss the irreplaceable moments happening right in front of you: By Bob Stahl and Steve Flowers

Do You Know These Nine Varieties of Positive Emotion? Neuroscientific and evolutionary evidence suggests there’s not just one : Douglas T. Kenrick Ph.D.

Saturday, 16 December 2017

189 new recommendations delivered by the Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse in Australia - I was one of the 7875 victims interviewed about my experience of childhood sexual abuse. My perpetrator was Brother Bernard Hartman, now retired, of the Marianist order, Catholic Church, residing in the U.S. I am not celebrating the recommendations of the Royal Commission with gusto as some might expect because I know that some children will never be safe, no matter how hard we try. Am I a defeatist or a realist? I am expecting future abused children to have a voice, be believed and receive early intervention and appropriate care. I am looking forward improvements being implemented within all institutions that will make those children safer. I only wish I had a magic wand to stop this devastating, cruel and vile experience from ever happening to another child. I applaud, "the creation of a new National Office for Child Safety" which will hopefully prove to be a great first step forward. But I feel that the expectation, "that religious ministers be required to report abuse confided in them during confession." may be a pipe dream. Unless rogue priests set up sting operations to weed out and dob in non-compliant priests, I don't trust the Catholic Church to follow this through. I also worry that some people may believe that a married priest is a "safer" priest and let their guard down. Married men and parents can, and do, commit rape and abuse against children, their own included. As it stands at the moment, the leaders of the Catholic Church in Australia are stating that they will refer to Rome and the Holy See for their instructions on mandatory reporting of child abuse confessional matters. These new implementations will be Australian Law. Abide by the laws of the land or face the full consequences of harsh criminal charges. The full Royal Commission report can be read via the link below. Live Your Bliss Mairead

My words to the people of Australia in the Survivors Book in the National Library in Canberra


Wednesday, 13 December 2017

What goes on inside a medically supervised injection facility? By Marianne Jauncey

The tale of the Hero's Journey a documentary style film

5 Things Everyone Gets Wrong About Anxiety - What you don't know about anxiety may surprise you : Barbara Markway Ph.D.

Loving a Trauma Survivor: Understanding Childhood Trauma’s Impact On Relationships : Robyn E. Brickel MA, LMFT

Common questions about schizoaffective disorder Tanya Peisley

Friday, 1 December 2017

Music - Beautiful Cello Violin Piano Harp

This post is dedicated to my daughter who is at a camp in the Himalayas, where I think the photo for this album cover was captured.
Compare the photo below that Matilda sent me yesterday